Trans Men Ask Trans Women Questions
Are you fierce? Do you consider yourself fierce?
Yeah, that's something that actually bothers me. Like, I'll be walking down the street, and someone will be like, "Yas, girl!" and I'm just like, it makes me feel more like a drag queen than a trans woman.
How do you find it in your heart to be as patient as you are, with men? - I can't help being attracted to them, which kinda sucks. (laughs) Sometimes. I feel like we, you know, like we need everybody. Even though women get the most visible brunt
of the oppression, I feel like men are also deeply oppressed by gender. - A lot of people refer to trans women as like "the girls", right? - [Woman] Yeah. - So like when the girls get into a group, the girls are really like, "turnt up" all the time.
- [Woman] Yeah. - What is that about? Why do girls get so turnt up when you're together? - Because when you're a trans woman, or just a trans person in general, you know, it's hard to find community. Trans women are so disconnected,
that when we get together, it's just like (claps). You know, you have to just as amazing as possible. Do cis men or cis women generally respect who you are more? Or is it... - I've found that cis men actually have been kinder to me, like during this process, in this process, in public.
A lot of times I get attitude from cis women, especially when I am being fierce, as we say. I've noticed that cis women are a little more standoffish, but I don't have anyone who disrespects, like, my gender or anything like that. - Either during your transition, your medical transition,
or afterwards, moving through the world and being read as a woman, what were you least expecting? - You know, like I kind of feel like I keep finding levels. I keep finding depth. Like every time I think I've hit this sort of, like, bottom of the depth of woman hood,
I would have this sort of experience. Like the first time I cried spontaneously, I was just like "Oh my god. "This is an experience of womanhood "that is new to me." But the thing that I completely did not anticipate
was the way in which I absorbed, unconsciously, so many of those signals. - I hear from the trans women on Reddit that an incredibly high number of you work in IT. - Oh my gosh. I've never heard that. Probably because I'm not on Reddit that often.
Maybe the trans women on Reddit are in IT. I actually, I don't know. Not to my knowledge, I don't know, but yeah. (laughs) I've never heard that before. (light electric music) (hinge squeaking)
- It's here! It's here. - [female voices overlapping] It's here. - Get it. - Get it, there. - I think they got it. Get it. - Yeah, you get it.
- It's here. We're done.
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